Sexual dynamics

Dear activists:

Next time you are out there protesting for your particular sexual orientation or gender, (binary or otherwise), please put in a good word for the least appreciated and most sexually confusing group of humans in the world: those who are asexual, nonsexual, celebate, or not actively pursuing interaction with members of any group. 

We include the surgically neutered, the hormonally whacked, the emotionally fried, or the physically impotent. We are the ones who got tired of games and stopped playing. We are also the ones for whom celibacy is a personal choice for reasons religious or otherwise.

I was once one of those hetero-by-choice people. It happens. Then I became ill and had to have surgery.  They took everything out, and things begin to get weird. North Carolina changed their bathroom laws, people were harassed for their gender or non gender. And I started to wonder which gender I had become. I don't have the right "plumbing" to be considered either male or female. And my hormones were always pretty useless, so I didn't have anything there to plead my case.

There is so much diversity between being Hetero and being LGBTQI. The unclassified minority is no threat, means harm to no person. And yet we are vilified ("I'll bet you were never a mother, were you?"), targeted (ED commercials anyone?), or even worse, ignored. The VA has even determined that I am officially "disabled" because I am no longer a "whole" woman after the hysterectomy that saved my life.

So the next time you quote the alphabet soup of sexual preferences and gender profiles, consider adding a few more categories: N for nonsexual, C for celibate, A for asexual, S for sexually neutered.

I prefer to think of all of us as H for human. Speaking personally, it's nobody's business how I pee or what I do/don't do with my sexuality.